Ch. 5. (The Power of a Parent’s Blessing)

Blessing Your Child in the Womb

 

 Let’s now turn to the second critical time God intended for a child to receive his parent’s blessing: in the womb. This second key phase entails the entire gestational period – from conception through birth. In the past some people thought unborn children were little inanimate lumps of flesh with no thoughts or feelings. Of course, we know from Scripture that God created each child and breathed the human spirit into him at the moment of conception. The Bible makes it clear that God had plans for us before we were even conceived.

 

 I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: Wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; and in Your book were written the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there was not one of them. - Psa. 139:14-16

 

 Thus says the LORD, your Redeemer, and the one who formed you from the womb. - Isa. 44:24

 

 But when God, who had set me apart from my mother’s womb and called me through His grace, was pleased to reveal His Son to me so that I might preach Him among the Gentiles. - Gal. 1:15-16

 

 So we see that God created and released us to be conceived at just the correct time. Whether or not our parents followed God’s design and were married at the time of our conception, not one of us is an accident. God knew exactly when we would be born, and He had a plan for our lives long before our parents even met.

I was in a meeting once, and a young mother came up to me with tears in her eyes and said, “I was violently raped when I was fifteen years old and conceived my oldest son as a result.

 

 Do you think that it was God’s will and plan for that man to rape me so that my son could be born?”

“No, of course not!” I responded. I explained that rape is never God’s will or plan for anyone. What that rapist did to her was sin, motivated by Satan and not by God. However, God uses even the evil works of the devil to ultimately bless and benefits us. Paul tells us in Rom. 8:28 that “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”

So we see that while God is not the author of all circumstances, He certainly is the master of all circumstances. In this case of a rape, the enemy may have been able to pervert how the child was conceived, but he could not thwart the ultimate purpose of God in the life of the mother or the child. God knew this tragic rape would occur, so even though the child was not conceived in the way He intended, God still created the child and had a purpose and destiny in mind for him.

 

 It is beyond the scope of this book to delve deep into explaining the sovereignty of God, why injustice occurs, or how evil operates in the earth. For a thorough treatment of this subject, please see my book If God Is in Control, Then Why . . ? Trusting a Just God in an Unjust World, particularly chapters 2 and 3. 1

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1 Craig Hill, If God Is in Control, Then Why...? (Littleton, CO: Family Foundations International, 2008).

 

Key Role Player

 

When a child is in the womb, the mother is obviously the key role player in the child’s life. While the attitudes, words, and emotions of the mother profoundly impact the growing child, the father also has a powerful responsibility to bless not only his child but also his wife. How the father treats his wife during this time can have a significant effect on the growing child as well.

 

Key Questions To Be Answered

 

The key questions to be answered by either God or the devil through the words and emotions of the parents are: Am I accepted and safe? Do I belong here?

Of course, Satan and the kingdom of darkness want to use parents to answer this question with a resounding, “No, you are not accepted. This place is not safe for you, and you shouldn’t even be here. We don’t want you. You are an intrusion, a bother, and a nuisance. Someone has played a cruel joke on you and deposited you in this hostile environment where you are not wanted and are totally alone to be tormented by demonic spirits. Maybe you will die or just somehow go away and stop bothering us.”

Again, God’s answer is just the opposite. He wants to use both parents to convey: “You are accepted, wanted, and safe here. God made a reservation for you, and we have been waiting with great expectation and anticipation for the exciting news of your arrival. We will love you, protect you, care for you, nurture you, and bless you in every way possible. We can’t wait for you to be born so we can see with our own eyes the beautiful gift God has given us.”

 

Blessing your child in the womb may include

 

The identity of an unborn child can be either blessed or cursed from the moment of conception until birth. Of course, it was God’s plan for the child to be blessed during the entire gestational period, but this is not always what happens. So what might blessing and cursing in the womb look like?

 

Blessing your child in the womb may include:

 

1. The parents providing a spiritually protected environment for the child by being within the protective hedge of the   

    covenant of marriage.

 

2. Conveying to the child he is wanted, accepted, and received.

 

3. Being excited about the gift God has given you in the conception of a child.

 

4. The mother being free of emotional stress and turmoil in her life.

 

5. The mother and father providing an environment of love, nurture, and joy

 

Cursing a child in the womb may involve such things as:

 

1. The parents leaving the child vulnerable to demonic attack by not providing the spiritual protection afforded by the

    covenant of marriage.

 

2. Conveying to the unborn child he is unwanted and unwelcome.

 

3. Feeling the child is a bother or an intrusion into the mother’s life.

 

4. The mother living in an environment of emotional stress, turmoil, fear, or anxiety.

 

5. The parents not communicating nurture, love, or value to the child.

 

6. The mother attempting to abort the child

 

THE AMAZING EXPERIENCE OF AN UNBORN CHILD

 

 Not only does Scripture tell us that children need to be blessed in the womb, but also the science of prenatal medicine and psychology confirms this. The most interesting and informative book I have ever read on this topic was written by a prenatal psychiatrist named Dr. Thomas Verny. Titled The Secret Life of the Unborn Child, this book confirms that parents can either bless or curse the identity of children in the womb and that such impartations may afflict the child’s self-image for the rest of his life. An unborn child is not just an inanimate “fetus.” He is a real person who feels and whose identity and self-perception are strongly shaped by his parents’ words, emotions, and attitudes. Dr. Verny writes:

 

 We now know that the unborn child is an aware, reacting human being who from the sixth month on (and perhaps even earlier) leads an active emotional life. Along with this startling finding we have made these discoveries:

• The fetus can see, hear, experience, taste, and, on an primitive level, even learn in utero (that is, in the uterus – before birth). Most importantly, he can feel – not with an adult’s sophistication, but feel nonetheless.

• A corollary to this discovery is that what a child feels and perceives begins shaping his attitudes and expectations about himself. Whether he ultimately sees himself and, hence, acts as a happy or sad, aggressive or meek, secure or anxiety-ridden person depends, in part, on the messages he gets about himself in the womb.

• The chief source of those messages is the child’s mother. This does not mean every fleeting worry, doubt or anxiety a woman has rebounds on her child. What matters are deep persistent patterns of feeling. Chronic anxiety or a wrenching ambivalence about motherhood can leave a deep scar on an unborn child’s personality. On the otherhand, such life-enhancing emotions as joy, elation, and anticipation can contribute significantly to the emotional development of a healthy child. 2

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2 Thomas Verny with John Kelly, The Secret Life of the Unborn Child (New York: Simon and Schuster, Inc., 1981), 12-13.

 

 Dr. Verny says his book “is based on the discovery that the unborn child is a feeling, remembering, aware being, and because he is, what happens to him – what happens to all of us – in the nine month between conception and birth molds and shapes personality, drives, and ambitions in very important ways.” 33 Ibid., 15

 

 Not only are children in the womb impacted emotionally, but Dr. Verny also cites several stories of children learning words, phrases, foreign words, and even musical scores while still in the womb. He tells one notable story of a gifted philharmonic conductor, Boris Brott, who had been asked in a radio interview when he had first become interested in music.

 

 He [Brott] hesitated for a moment and said, “You know, this may sound strange, but music has been a part of me since before birth.” Perplexed, the interviewer asked him to explain.

“Well,” said Brott, “as a young man, I was mystified by this unusual ability I had – to play certain pieces sight unseen. I’d be conducting a score for the first time and, suddenly, the cello line would jump out at me; I’d know the flow of the piece even before I turned the page of the score. One day, I mentioned this to my mother, who is a professional cellist. I thought she’d be intrigued because it was always the cello line that was so distinct in my mind. She was; but when she heard what the pieces were, the mystery quickly solved itself. All the scores I knew sight unseen were the ones she had played while she was pregnant with me. 4

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4 Ibid., 22-23.

 

 As believer, we know that God breathes the human spirit into a child at the time of conception. Dr. Verny quotes research that again confirms that parents can bless or curse a child’s identity from the time of conception on. Referring to the unborn child, Dr. Verny states:

 

 He can sense and react not only to large, undifferentiated emotions such as love and hate, but also to more shaded complex feeling states like ambivalence and ambiguity.

Precisely at what moment his brain cells acquire this ability is still unknown. One group pf investigators believes something like consciousness exists from the very first moments of conception. As evidence, they point to the thousands of perfectly healthy women who repeatedly abort spontaneously. There is speculation that in the first weeks - perhaps even hours – after conception, the fertilized ovum possess enough self-awareness to sense rejection and enough will to act on it. 5

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5 Ibid., 18-19

 

 So we see that the identity of children can be blessed or cursed by spiritual, emotional, verbal, and physical impartations from their parents even as tiny babies in the womb. Dr. Verny’s research further demonstrates that children in the womb are more sensitive than adults to the emotions and communication of the mother and father.

 

 An adult, and to a lesser degree a child, has had time to develop defenses and responses. He can soften or deflect the impact of experience. An unborn child cannot.
What affects him does so directly. That‘s why maternal emotions etch themselves so deeply on his psyche and why their tug remains so powerful later in life. Major personality characteristics seldom change. If optimism is engraved on the mind of an unborn child, it will take a great deal of adversity later to erase it 6

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6 Ibid., 25.

 

 Dr. Verny goes on to explain that when pregnant women do not communicate with their unborn children, it feels to that child much like being alone in a room for six, seven, or eight months without any emotional or intellectual connection.

 

 He [the unborn child] has to feel loved and wanted just as urgently – perhaps even more urgently – than we do. He has to be talked to and thought of; otherwise his spirit and often his body, too, begin wilting.... By and large, the personality of the unborn child a woman bears is a function of the quality of mother-child communication, and also of its specificity. If the communication was abundant, rich and, most important, nuturing, the chances are very good that the baby will be robust, healthy and happy.

This communication is an important part of bonding. 7

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7 Ibid., 26-27.

 

Blessing a Child in the Womb

 

 So we see that secular prenatal psychology confirms that a child needs to receive blessing, nurturing, and love during the time spent in the womb. Both father and mother can bless their children in the womb by speaking to them, praying over them, nurturing them, loving them, and basically treating them like real people even though they cannot physically see them yet. It is the parent’s priviledge and responsibility to communicate to their child God’s message that “you are accepted, loved, and welcome. This is a safe place for you to be, to grow, and to receive our love.”

While the mother is the primary person God is using to impart His message to her unborn child, the father is also a very important factor in the blessing of the child. Dr. Verny explains.

Everything that affects her (the mother) affects him (the child). And nothing affects her as deeply or hits with such lacerating impact as worries about her husband (or partner). Because of that, few things are more dangerous to a child, emotionally and physically, than a father who abuses or neglects his pregnant wife.

 

 An early vital factor in the child’s emotional well-being is his father’s commitment to the marriage.... For obvious psychological reasons, a man is at something of a disadvantage here. The child is not an organic part of him. But not all the physical impediments of pregnancy are insurmountable. Something as ordinary as talking is a good example: A child hears his father’s voice in utero, and there is solid evidence that hearing that voice makes a big emotional difference. In cases where a man talked to his child in utero using short soothing words, the newborn was able to pick out his father’s voice in a room even in the first hour or two of life. More than pick it out, he responds to it emotionally. If he is crying, for instance, he’ll stop. That familiar soothing sound tells him he is safe. 8

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8 Ibid.,30-31

 

 Several years ago a friend of mine told me a story about his unborn grandson that confirmed the value of blessing a child in the womb. Having understood the critical value of blessing his grandson in the womb, my friend John taught his daughter and son-in-law to speak blessing over their baby from the day they discovered the pregnancy. John also prayed and spoke words of blessing, love, and nurture to the baby every time he was around his daughter.

He would frequently kneel down and speak directly to his grandson in the womb. “Hello, little one,” he’d say. “This is your grandfather. I love you! You are so precious to me. You are a gift from God to us, and I can’t wait until you are born and I can see you, hold you, kiss your little face, and look into your eyes and tell you how much I love you. You are a mighty man of God who will shake nations in your lifetime.”

 

 John was at the hospital the day his grandson was born.
After the baby was cleaned up, the nurse handed him to his father and mother to love and hold. When the baby was handed back to the nurse, he began crying. John asked if he might hold his new grandson. The nurse handed the baby to John. He cuddled him, looked into his eyes, and began to say, “Hello, little one. This is your grandfather. I love you! You are so precious to me. You are a gift from God to us.”

John said the moment he began to speak, the baby stopped crying and looked up into his eyes. John said it was obvious that the baby recognized the voice that had been speaking to him for the last eight months. John’s grandson responded to the familiar voice and seemed to feel safe, secure, and at peace in the loving arms of the grandfather he had never seen but whose blessing he had been receiving all his life in the womb.

 

 Since John shared his story with me many years ago, I have heard similar stories many times from young fathers and mothers who also understood their priviledge and responsibility to bless their unborn child. Such blessing has the potential to create a strong sense of inner security and peace in the heart of the child that will last all his life.

Scripture also records the recognition and blessing of children in the womb in the interaction between Mary and her older relative Elizabeth. Mary the mother of Jesus went to visit Elizabeth. “When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb; and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. And she cried out with a loud voice and said, ‘Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb! And how it has happened to me, that the mother of my Lord would come to me? For behold, when the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby leaped in my womb for joy” (Luke 1:41-44).

 

Cursing a Child in the Womb

 

 Just as a child can be blessed in the womb, so also can the identity of a child be cursed in the womb. Many years ago as I was seeking the Lord, He led me to a key scripture about the long-lasting effects cursing a child’s identity in the womb can have in people’s lives. The psalmist David wrote, “the wicked are estranged from the womb; these who speak lies go astray from birth” (Ps. 58:3).

At first I thought this scripture could not apply to me or to any believer because we are not the “wicked” but the redeemed. But after conducting a short word study, I found that the Hebrew term translated “wicked” in this verse is rasha. This word, of course, means evil or impious, but some of the expanded meanings really caught my attention, including: “to be in a restless, unquiet state; tossed with various evil passions, distracted by many forms of wickedness, and having no peace of conscience, violent commotion within.” 9

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9 William Wilson, Wilson’s Old Testament Word Studies (Mclean, VA:Macdonald Publishing, n.d.),s.v. “rasha.”

 

 As I read this, I realized this word might apply to many people I have met, people who in their adult lives find themselves in a restless, disquieted state of soul, distracted and tossed to and fro by many passions.

The Hebrew word translated “estranged” is zuwr. This word can also mean “to be alienated, turned aside, to be treated as an enemy, or made to feel illegitimate, or of another family.” 10

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10 Blue Letter Bible, “Lexicon Results: Strong’s H2114 – zuwr,”

http://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon.cfm?Strongs=H8582&t=KJV

 

The phrase that really caught my attention was “of another family.” This feeling could be imparted to a child in the womb if he is made to feel like an enemy or as though he does not belong in the family. The unborn child could be made to feel, “Someone has played a cruel joke on me by placing me in this hostile environment in which I am not welcome, not wanted, and not protected.”

 

This may be similar to how a person would feel if he discovered he is not welcome at a party to which he thought he was invited. If you were to show up at an invitation – only formal party thinking your name was on the guest list only to discover at the door that your name is not on the list, you may feel quite rejected. In a situation like that you may simply turn around and leave, all the while saying to yourself, “Well, I know where I’m not wanted.”

 

However, a child who shows up in his mother’s womb and has a similar experience cannot simply turn aroud and leave. He has nowhere else to go. The child is forced to remain in this hostile environment, incurring the rejection and disdain of the host every day. This could easily create the feeling of alienation, rejection, and wrongness of being (shame). The child has done nothing wrong. His existence is considered wrong. Thus his very identity is cursed from the womb.

The third significant phrase in Ps. 58:3 is “to go astray.” This is the Hebrew word ta’ah. Some of the meaning of this word are “to wander, to vacillate, to reel or stray, to stagger as a drunken man.” Thus the result of being estranged in the womb is that in adulthood, one goes astray. If we apply these three expanded definitions to the Scripture passage, the verse would read something like this:

 

 The man (or woman) who is in a restless, unquiet state, tossed with various evil passions, distracted by many forms of wickedness, and having no peace of conscience, and violent commotion within was alienated, turned aside, treated as an enemy, and made to feel illegitimate or of another family in the womb. These who speak lies then from the time of birth are made to wander, to vacillate, to reel or stray, to be made to stagger through life as a drunken man.

 

 Through the years in ministry I have met many people who seem to have what I call a “Gypsy spirit.” No matter where they are or what they are doing, they are never happy. The grass is always greener somewhere else. They never feel at home. Thus, such a person wanders in his Christian life from church to church. Sometimes he wanders from job to job, city to city, or even relationship to relationship. When you look at the course of his life, it is not straight. It is a zigzag pattern with no stability. This person is literally wandering through life almost as a drunken man.

When people have been rejected and cursed instead of blessed in the womb, this often results in a disquieted soul in childhood and adult life. When the soul has no peace, the flesh is always busy attempting to bring a false comfort to the soul through various forms of wickedness, as described above. Since the soul is never at rest, this person is never at home and is always looking for something or someone else.

 

 In addition, many negative habits, feelings, and attitudes in adult life can result directly from estrangement in the womb. Sometimes these are not serious external sin patterns such as murder, alcoholism, adultery, or physical violence but are simply negative habits or emotional response patterns that are very difficult to change.

When ministering to people in this state, I have sought the Lord to reveal the root of the behavior, and many times He has led us to minister to the effects of rejection and cursing in the womb. Many people have experienced a complete change in their adult behavior and experience of life after having an encounter with the Lord at one of our Blessing Generations Experiences. 12

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12 For more information on attending a Blessing Generations Experience near you, visit www.familyfoundations.com

 

 One man had struggled all his life with procrastination and being late for appointments. We first prayed and asked the Lord to reveal to this man the root cause of these symptoms. As we waited, he slowly bent over in his chair, then fell down on the floor, curled up in a fetal position and began to quietly weep. When I asked him what he was experiencing, the man said that when we asked the Lord to reveal the root cause of his procrastination, he had an overwhelming feeling of being in his mother’s womb and not wanting to be born.

He had heard many angry voices and annoyance from his mother at his existence. In the weeks before his birth, the man’s mother and father argued frequently, and there had been several emotional outbursts between them. He was reliving the experience of being warm, secure, and safe in his mother’s womb and not wanting to emerge into the hostile environment he heard on the outside.

 

 This man later told us that he had been born more than three weeks after his due date. As we invited the Lord Jesus to minister to him, he felt the Lord remove the deep lie that he would not be wanted or received in any new situation. That lie was replaced with the truth that he would be accepted and welcomed. I could tell that something significant had occurred in this man’s life, and he later reported that he no longer struggled with feeling unwanted or not wanting to encounter the unknown. The feelings of fear and torment were simply not there. After that weekend he was rarely late for appointments, and the struggle with procrastination had completely been eliminated. His entire life had been transformed when the Lord replaced the deep emotional lie the man received in the womb with His truth. (See John 8:32.)

Another notable experience demonstrating the power pf impartations in the womb occurred during an Ancient Paths Experience several years ago. A Dutch woman said she had a significant bout with serious depression for several weeks at the same time every year. She had consulted several medical professionals and had been combating this depression in prayer for many years, but the depression still returned. Again, we simply asked the Lord to reveal to her the root of her depression. Within seconds she was experiencing an intense feeling of abandonment, loss, and grief. She asked the Lord to show her the origin of this intense emotion. Just then the Holy Spirit showed her that an intense sorrow had come upon her in the womb.

 

 Having been conceived in Holland during the Second World War, she never knew her father. He had gone off to fight with Dutch army after she was conceived, and unfortunately he was killed in battle and never returned home. In the course of her prayer the woman realized the feeling of intense loss had been imparted to her through her mother when the family received news of her father’s death. Through the time of ministry the Lord removed these intense feelings and the lies that attended them, and He replaced them with the impartation of blessing He had wanted her to receive in the womb. Again, this proved to be a life-changing experience for her.

 

 After the time of ministry this woman realized that the time of year she had battled depression was the exact time when news of her father’s death had reached her family. Intense feelings of abandonment, loss, grief, and sorrow had so powerfully come upon her in the womb. I happened to speak with this woman several years later, and she told me she was completely free of the annual cycle of depression and had never again experienced the same intense emotions since that ministry time.

Years later I discovered Dr. Verny’s book, which gave me an even better understanding of how and why an unintentional and unavoidable impartation of negative emotion from a mother to an unborn child could result in a lifelong struggle with depression for the child. Dr. Verny writes:

 

 Some forms of depression can also originate in utero. Usually, these are produced by a major loss. For whatever reason – illness or a distraction – a mother withdraws her love and support from her unborn child; that loss plunges him into a depression. You can see the after-affects of this in an apathetic newborn or a distracted sixteen-year-old; for, like other emotional patterns set in utero, depression may plague a child for the rest of his life. 13

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13 Verny, The Secret Life the Unborn Child, 65.

 

Other feelings that can be traced back to the cursing of identity in the womb include:

 Rejection  depression  Fear  Lust  Anger

 Guilt  “I’m a mistake.”  “I didn’t ask to be born.”

 “I don’t belong.”

 

The cursing of identity during the time in the womb is not the only cause of these feelings, but it is a major root of many such emotions and negative experiences later in life.

 

God’s Protective Measures In Ancient Hebrew Culture

 

 God was so intent that no one would receive Satan’s identity message in the womb that He again placed protective measures in ancient Hebrew culture. God used the same three protective values mentioned in the last chapter to protect a child in the womb. In addition to those three – the Law of Moses and the cultural attitudes toward children and marriage – there was another common practice in biblical Hebrew culture that facilitated the blessing of a child in the womb and protected the child against cursing. It was the practice of relieving an expectant mother of most of her duties during the latter stages of the pregnancy.

 

 In our modern culture the birth of a child is almost a non-event. Many times the mother works up until her water breaks and then rushes to the hospital to have the baby. After a short “maternity leave” the mother is back at work, the baby is off to day care, and life goes on as if nothing has changed.

In contrast, in ancient Hebrew culture the news of a pregnancy was cause for celebration. Because children were considered a gift from God, an expectant mother was treated with special care and honor. First, in general women didn’t work outside the home. Caring for her family was considered a high calling. Again, in our modern culture, even in many Christian circles, a woman who is “just a stay-at-home mom” is sometimes seen as not making valuable use of her time and intellect.

 

 Typically in biblical culture, not only was the expectant mother at home, but also during the last one or even two trimesters her extended family would do much of her household work. The expectant mother was encouraged to spend her time praying, caring for herself and the unborn child, and preparing herself for the birth. In the Hebrew family the unborn child was a high priority to both the mother and the family in general. This protective measure established by God created the maximum opportunity for an unborn child to receive regular impartation of blessing while in the womb. Again, it is important for us today to reestablish in our communities a culture of blessing that facilitates this same blessing of children in the womb.

 

Remedial Prayers to Break the Curse

 

If you tried to abort your child

 Attempting to abort a child in the womb, of course, is one of the most powerful ways of imparting Satan’s identity message. This is the bad news. The good news is that Jesus Christ died and shed His blood to forgive you of your sin and to heal, restore, and bless the identity of your child. If you attempted to abort your child, I encourage you to follow the steps below.

 

1. Renounce and repent of the sin of attempted murder and receive forgiveness.

 

 Father, I recognize today that I sinned against You and against my son/daughter by attempting to abort my child.

I acknowledge that abortion is murder, so I acknowledge that I attempted to commit murder. Lord, I renounce the sin of attempted murder, and I repent of it and turn completely away from it. I can’t pay for this sin. Today I receive the blood of Jesus to pay for the attempted murder of my child, and because Jesus paid for this sin, today I receive Your forgiveness. Father, because You have forgiven me, today I forgive myself for the sin of attempted murder.

 

2. Pray blessing over the life of your child.

 

Father, we now bless [your child’s name] in the mighty name of Jesus Christ with life, health, and peace. We declare over [your child’s name] that he/she is wanted, accepted, and safe here in our family. You gave him/her to us, and today we receive [your child’s name] as the precious gift he/she is to us.

[Your child’s name], we bless the time you spent in your mother’s womb. By the blood of Jesus Christ we break the power of every message the enemy tried to send to you. We declare over you that you were conceived by the will of God right on time. We bless the day of your conception and every day you spent in the womb until the day you were born. God kept you safe in your mother’s womb, and you were born right on time. You are our child, and we love you. We receive your life as a unique gift from God to our family, and we thank God for making you a part of our family in His unique and special timing. You are absolutely unique, and no one else can accomplish or fulfill your purpose on earth. We bless your life, your spirit, your health, your destiny and purpose, and your place in our family. May you be blessed in all you are and all you do all the days of your life.

 

If you considered your child an intrusion into your life or cursed your child’s identity while he/she was in the womb.

 

1. renounce and repent of inadvertently or intentionally cursing the identity of your child and receive forgiveness.

 

 Father, I recognize today that I was the devil’s agent to send to my child a wrong identity message. Lord, I renounce the sin of cursing my child’s identity, and I repent of it and turn completely away from it. I can’t pay for this, but I recognize that Jesus died to pay for my sin. Today I received the blood of Jesus to pay for my cursing my child’s identity, and because Jesus Christ paid for this sin, today I receive Your forgiveness. Father, because You have forgiven me, today I forgive myself for cursing the identity of my child.

 

2. Pray blessing over the life of your child.

 

I suggest you pray the same prayer of blessing over your child included above.

 

If you never knew to pray blessing over your child during his time in the womb

If you did not realize the value of blessing your child in the womb, I suggest that you now pray over your child the same prayer of blessing included above.

 

Preventative Prayers to Release the Blessing

 

 Now that you understand God’s intent for every child to be blessed in the womb, start today blessing any children or grandchildren God gives you each day while they are growing in the womb. Pray for the child and speak words of love, welcome, and blessing. I suggest you pray something like this.

 

 Father God, thank you for [your child’s name]. He is a precious gift to us. We pray that you keep him strong and healthy and full of life in the womb. Lord, fill [your child’s name] even now in the womb with Your Holy Spirit and let him feel Your love and protection today in the womb.

Hello, little one, this is your father/mother [or grandmother/grandfather]. I love you. I can’t wait to see you when you are born and to kiss your precious little face. We are so glad you are here, and we will always be here for you, take care of you, and keep you safe. You belong in this family, and you have a place here with us. You were fearfully and wonderfully made by God, and He has set you apart even from your mother’s womb to serve the Lord Jesus Christ all the days of your life. I declare this day that your life is completely off limits to Satan and all demonic spirits. We declare that you are dedicated in every aspect of your life to the Lord Jesus Christ and to His plan and purpose for you today and all the days of your life.

 

 You are a blessing to everyone you meet, and you can expect to have God’s favor on your life everywhere you go. You are absolutely unique, and no one else can be who God has created you to be or do what God has gifted you to do. I want you to know that you will always be safe and welcome here. There is nothing that you can ever do that will cause us to reject or abandon you. I bless your spirit today with the life of God. I bless your mind with intelligence and wisdom. I bless your emotions with enthusiasm, security, and peace. I bless your body with physical health and life. May you grow and develop in every aspect – spirit, soul, and body – into the person God has planned for you to be. May you abide in God’s love and peace this day, in Jesus’ name. Amen.