Section (1) of Ch. 5. (The Power of a Parent’s Blessing)

Blessing Your Child in the Womb

 

 Let’s now turn to the second critical time God intended for a child to receive his parent’s blessing: in the womb. This second key phase entails the entire gestational period – from conception through birth. In the past some people thought unborn children were little inanimate lumps of flesh with no thoughts or feelings. Of course, we know from Scripture that God created each child and breathed the human spirit into him at the moment of conception. The Bible makes it clear that God had plans for us before we were even conceived.

 

 I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: Wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; and in Your book were written the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there was not one of them. - Psa. 139:14-16

 

 Thus says the LORD, your Redeemer, and the one who formed you from the womb. - Isa. 44:24

 

 But when God, who had set me apart from my mother’s womb and called me through His grace, was pleased to reveal His Son to me so that I might preach Him among the Gentiles. - Gal. 1:15-16

 

 So we see that God created and released us to be conceived at just the correct time. Whether or not our parents followed God’s design and were married at the time of our conception, not one of us is an accident. God knew exactly when we would be born, and He had a plan for our lives long before our parents even met.

I was in a meeting once, and a young mother came up to me with tears in her eyes and said, “I was violently raped when I was fifteen years old and conceived my oldest son as a result.

 

 Do you think that it was God’s will and plan for that man to rape me so that my son could be born?”

“No, of course not!” I responded. I explained that rape is never God’s will or plan for anyone. What that rapist did to her was sin, motivated by Satan and not by God. However, God uses even the evil works of the devil to ultimately bless and benefits us. Paul tells us in Rom. 8:28 that “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”

So we see that while God is not the author of all circumstances, He certainly is the master of all circumstances. In this case of a rape, the enemy may have been able to pervert how the child was conceived, but he could not thwart the ultimate purpose of God in the life of the mother or the child. God knew this tragic rape would occur, so even though the child was not conceived in the way He intended, God still created the child and had a purpose and destiny in mind for him.

 

 It is beyond the scope of this book to delve deep into explaining the sovereignty of God, why injustice occurs, or how evil operates in the earth. For a thorough treatment of this subject, please see my book If God Is in Control, Then Why . . ? Trusting a Just God in an Unjust World, particularly chapters 2 and 3. 1

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1 Craig Hill, If God Is in Control, Then Why...? (Littleton, CO: Family Foundations International, 2008).

 

Key Role Player

 

When a child is in the womb, the mother is obviously the key role player in the child’s life. While the attitudes, words, and emotions of the mother profoundly impact the growing child, the father also has a powerful responsibility to bless not only his child but also his wife. How the father treats his wife during this time can have a significant effect on the growing child as well.

 

Key Questions To Be Answered

 

The key questions to be answered by either God or the devil through the words and emotions of the parents are: Am I accepted and safe? Do I belong here?

Of course, Satan and the kingdom of darkness want to use parents to answer this question with a resounding, “No, you are not accepted. This place is not safe for you, and you shouldn’t even be here. We don’t want you. You are an intrusion, a bother, and a nuisance. Someone has played a cruel joke on you and deposited you in this hostile environment where you are not wanted and are totally alone to be tormented by demonic spirits. Maybe you will die or just somehow go away and stop bothering us.”

Again, God’s answer is just the opposite. He wants to use both parents to convey: “You are accepted, wanted, and safe here. God made a reservation for you, and we have been waiting with great expectation and anticipation for the exciting news of your arrival. We will love you, protect you, care for you, nurture you, and bless you in every way possible. We can’t wait for you to be born so we can see with our own eyes the beautiful gift God has given us.”

 

Blessing your child in the womb may include

 

The identity of an unborn child can be either blessed or cursed from the moment of conception until birth. Of course, it was God’s plan for the child to be blessed during the entire gestational period, but this is not always what happens. So what might blessing and cursing in the womb look like?

 

Blessing your child in the womb may include:

 

1. The parents providing a spiritually protected environment for the child by being within the protective hedge of the   

    covenant of marriage.

 

2. Conveying to the child he is wanted, accepted, and received.

 

3. Being excited about the gift God has given you in the conception of a child.

 

4. The mother being free of emotional stress and turmoil in her life.

 

5. The mother and father providing an environment of love, nurture, and joy

 

Cursing a child in the womb may involve such things as:

 

1. The parents leaving the child vulnerable to demonic attack by not providing the spiritual protection afforded by the

    covenant of marriage.

 

2. Conveying to the unborn child he is unwanted and unwelcome.

 

3. Feeling the child is a bother or an intrusion into the mother’s life.

 

4. The mother living in an environment of emotional stress, turmoil, fear, or anxiety.

 

5. The parents not communicating nurture, love, or value to the child.

 

6. The mother attempting to abort the child